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Wednesday, 24 October 2012

Who has a perfect body anyway?

So. Today I had one of those demoralising kind of shopping for clothes trips. This led me to wonder, is it just me who has an unusually shaped body?

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I'll admit I'm not the slimmest girl in the world (ahem) and that I do not have a perfectly symmetrical body. I can reveal that I am (rather unhelpfully) somewhere around a size 10 on top and a size 14 down below. Maybe too much personal information to be sharing but actually I don't consider that to be bad after giving birth to two gorgeous girls (yes, I'm biased about the girls).

I've probably always had this kind of body shape. The hips have always been just there (child-bearing, my mother told me, to be sure she was right), I have very long legs but an extremely short body, and as a youngster I was particularly flat-chested and late to develop, which did not, of course, particularly endear me to any boys. Being painfully shy may also have had something to do with that though.
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Anyhow, I digress. I've now reached the ripe old age of 40 and am no longer flat chested. I do still have narrow shoulders however, which obviously isn't helping. Dresses that fit me are pretty impossible to find.

Today I had a Eureka! moment and decided that it's not a personal shopper that I need to help me find clothes; I need a personal seamstress to come with me and alter the ones I do like. 

I started off in one of my favourite high street shops after receiving one of their product catalogues in the post. Everything in the catalogue looked wintry and appealing, in my kind of colours and fabrics. I literally cannot remember the last time I went shopping for me, so I grabbed a half hour in town and made a beeline for this shop (after picking up Halloween decorations for the girls, of course).

I loaded myself up with ten tops - well nine to be fair, plus one jumper dress - and would have also taken some jeans into the changing room if they'd have had them in my size. I wasn't going to name the shop, as I'm definitely not slagging them off per se - to be honest, I've endured this experience more than once in my life, in various outlets - but then I thought I'd copy @FatFace in just in case this post goes viral and they want to thank me by providing some made to measure clothes.

Friendly and helpful staff, lovely changing rooms, a large mirror (all the better to admire those lumps and bumps in) and plenty of space plus a bonus seat to rest a handbag on/sit down on inbetween changes (??!!). TEN tops I tried on, as you can see here:




They are 'everyday' kind of tops, nothing out of the ordinary, but lovely nonetheless. I would have been happy with any one of them. If all ten had fitted, I possibly would have bought the lot.

They were all a size 10. They all fitted me badly in a similar, yet different way. Too low cut, too gaping, too billowy, too falling off the shoulders, too tight under the bust but too big on the bust, etc etc. I was sad. I was also slightly annoyed with myself for wasting my time.

I gave up on tops and went to another shop, where I picked up 3 pairs of jeans in a size 14. One pair too tight, could hardly get them zipped up, one pair a good fit but magically very unflattering, and the third pair very comfy but with the big gaping hole at the back (big hips, small waist). Three pairs, from the same shop, in supposedly the same size. 

At a final shop I grabbed seven tops to be tried on back at home because my (limited) time was running out. I'll be keeping two of those. Yay, success at last, ahem, cough cough.

As I mused over my disappointment back at home, this happened:

Don't judge me, maybe I was just trying to make my top half bigger and balance myself out...

So what do you think? Do you have the perfect body? Can you pick up clothes anywhere? Do you know a good seamstress??!

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15 comments:

  1. I know other people who have perfect bodies! Even in their 40s...I never had a perfect body, but it wasn't bad, and of course I didn't realise that at the time, it's only since everything went a bit 'pear'shaped (excuse the pun!) in the past 5 years that I realised how lucky I was. It was also a revelation to see my 20 year old looking slim and gorgeous in clothes I was wearing in my 30s (now vintage, don't you know) when I thought I was a bit overweight!

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    1. too true about how I never made the most of my body back when it was actually passable (well slim. I still had the hips and shoulder issues ;) ). Well done you for looking fab in your 30's still!!

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  2. Your photos of the fingers made me smile - We had a cadbury's fingers moment today too! I did share them with the kids though (which doesn't always happen). but we did finish the whole pack in one go :-(

    I never thought I would hear myself say this, but I picked up a copy of Trinny & susannah's book (it was in the 20p pile in the library) and found it surprisingly good at helping me figure out a bit about my shape and what may or may not suit me - then I hit the charity shops and found several outfits I really liked. Only problem now after having another baby is i can't fit into them anymore! might be worth googling to see if you can find any online advice from them?

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    1. Yes, I liked Trinny & Susannah! I do think though, that at the age of 40, I know what style and shapes suit me now - it's just I can never find them in the shops!!!

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  3. Reading this you have my sympathy as I have similar issues all the time. I too have the wide hips - am currently getting my waist back - but smaller on top. Jeans are always an issue. Size 14 to fit the hips but always sag round the leg in the wrong places, even super stretchy skinny ones. Tops I hate shopping for due to small chest, wide back and general oddness! Dresses - arghhhhh! I tend to go for tunic dresses a la White Stuff or Mistral. fat Face used to be a definite go to but am falling out with them lately :(
    Lovely to have found your blog via FB x

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    1. Oh yes. Don't get me started on jeans!! That's next in the list of 'things to waste my time trying to find' list...!!! I like White Stuff too but don't find their quality v good generally for the price....

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  4. I'm exactly the same and it's really getting me down at the moment! I would love to walk into a shop and find at least 5 nice outfits that look great and feel great! It's like they don't want my money or something! Oh well Mr Cadbury's will accept it ;)

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    1. Outfits that fit! I can only dream of those ;) my husband's latest comment is that one of those 10 tops must have looked good on me but I just didn't realise it... no, they didn't. Not one of them was as good as anything I have in my wardrobe now, and that's saying something!!!
      Yum re Cadburys. Or Green and Blacks. Or Dairy products also hit the mark I find ;)

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  5. I hate my body shape and can't get clothes to suit/fit either. I usually order from a catalogue and then send them back.

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    1. oh yes. that tends to be my option too as at least I feel as if I've not wasted quite as much time.... Last time before this I shopped, I ordered 12 pairs of jeans from Debenhams online... and took 11 back! Quickly went online to order another pair or ten of the ones that did fit, but they had sold out AND been discontinued. Herrumph. Just my luck!

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  6. Tell me about it, try being petite, hugely plus sized with boobs the size of watermelons, nada, the only shop goes to my size is Evans and starngely enough I am not in my 60's I want to dress like everyone else.
    Like you I have tops in my wardrobe that range from an 18 to a 26 and they fit (not well) I can not understand why shops don't stick to a size guide, would make shopping less upsetting and wrist slitting xxx

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    1. tried on 3 size 14 pairs of jeans today. Two too tight, one too baggy. Sigh. I think we should all get clothes made to measure! If only I was good with a sewing machine :)

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  7. I have the same problem of hips being bigger than my waist, it can make it quite hard to find trousers and jeans to fit.

    I don't mean to spam but on my working parents website, Working Parents United, a personal stylist has imparted her top tips for how best to dress your body shape. You may or may not find it useful: http://www.workingparentsunited.co.uk/index.php/home-and-lifestyle/36-lifestyle/40-dress-to-impress-flatter-body-shape

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  8. I have the same problem of hips being bigger than my waist, it can make it quite hard to find trousers and jeans to fit.

    I don't mean to spam but on my working parents website, Working Parents United, a personal stylist has imparted her top tips for how best to dress your body shape. You may or may not find it useful: http://www.workingparentsunited.co.uk/index.php/home-and-lifestyle/36-lifestyle/40-dress-to-impress-flatter-body-shape

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  9. I have the same problem of hips being bigger than my waist, it can make it quite hard to find trousers and jeans to fit.

    I don't mean to spam but on my working parents website, Working Parents United, a personal stylist has imparted her top tips for how best to dress your body shape. You may or may not find it useful: http://www.workingparentsunited.co.uk/index.php/home-and-lifestyle/36-lifestyle/40-dress-to-impress-flatter-body-shape

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