PDA Advice and Support

*****NEW PDA advice and support service***** 

Are you:
  • A parent or carer supporting a child with a diagnosis of PDA right now? 
  • An educator who has a child struggling in your class and PDA has been mentioned? 
  • Have you heard of PDA and wonder if your child is showing traits but don't know where to start with information? 
  • Do you have more questions than answers about PDA? 

If so, you could benefit from a session with me for advice and support about Pathological Demand Avoidance.

For many parents, hearing about Pathological Demand Avoidance for the first time is a 'Lightbulb Moment'. 

It feels as if a lightbulb has suddenly been switched on, and everything becomes much clearer. You begin to see patterns and to recognise signs which lead to certain behaviours, and you start to think about everything in detail. 

At this point, it's typical to still have lots of questions, and to want to read more. That may be why you have come across my blog, and I hope that sharing our experiences of living with our PDA daughter has helped clear the fog a little.

The PDA Society is always the first place I recommend people turn to when wanting to find out more about Pathological Demand Avoidance, and they offer a free enquiry line service via their website here.

I appreciate though, that parents or educators often have questions which are not easily answered by clicking on lots of website links and sifting through mounds of information. When I think back to the early days after diagnosis for our daughter, I know I’d have liked to chat with someone who understood. Talking to a friendly face can make a difference, can help make more sense of it all

My new PDA Advice 1:1 consultation service is open to anybody who would like some support around Pathological Demand Avoidance. The goal might be to find out more about this particular type of autism, or to discuss recommendations of how to help at home or school.

As a parent to our younger daughter (diagnosed at two, now thirteen years old) I have a wealth of experience of PDA from birth right through to the teenage years. Since having children I have worked extensively with many parents of children with disabilities in our county and been involved in a variety of SEND issues. I've been a huge supporter of the PDA Society along the way, and on their behalf I have run parent workshops about PDA and training days. 

I'm now delivering 45 minute advice sessions by telephone or video call, at mutually convenient times. For a small fee we can discuss any aspect of PDA and your child. I will share our experiences and may be able to offer a new angle to consider or approach to try. We can agree in advance whether Zoom, Whats App, phone call or another format suits you best. I know how difficult it can be for those with younger children (and sometimes even the older ones) to find space and time to talk, so I will make myself available at a variety of times, morning, afternoon, evening and even weekends.

If you are interested in booking an advice session with me, please email me at stephstwogirls@gmail.com and I will reply with more details.

To find out more about our experiences, please check out our 'About Us' page. If you are looking for more information on Pathological Demand Avoidance, the posts below may help.

What is PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance)?

Ten things you need to know about Pathological Demand Avoidance

Does my child have Pathological Demand Avoidance?

The difference between PDA and ODD

Strategies for PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance)

Pathological Demand Avoidance: Strategies for Schools

Challenging Behaviour and PDA

Is Pathological Demand Avoidance real?

Autism with demand avoidance or Pathological Demand Avoidance?


  1. Wow - your site has opened up a wealth of information and "aha" moments for me. My daughter struggles with so many of the areas you touch on here, and our therapist has mentioned things like "perceived demand" in relation to my daughter's challenging behaviors, but we never knew there was a name for it. Thank you for sharing all your time and resources!

    1. Thank you for your kind comment! Happy to have helped x


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