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I'm Steph, mum to two gorgeous girls (OK, so I am slightly biased....) hence the Blog title!

I started this blog after a visit to the paediatrician with our younger daughter (aged 2 years and 7 months at the time). The visit produced some shock news that she could be diagnosed with autism. She had delayed speech but at the time we didn't suspect it was anything unusual.... to see the original post, please click the link at the bottom of this page.

After much reading and research, we came to the conclusion that our youngest girl has a particular sub-type of Autism called Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA). Asperger's Syndrome and Classic Autism are two other sub-types.


The central difficulty for people with PDA is their avoidance of the everyday demands made by other people, due to their high anxiety levels when they feel that they are not in control.
People with PDA tend to have much better social communication and interaction skills than other people on the spectrum, and are consequently able to use this ability to their advantage. They still have real difficulties in these areas though, mainly because they need to control the interaction.
The main features of PDA (and how it differs from other sub-types of autism) are:
obsessively resisting ordinary demands
appearing sociable on the surface but lacking depth in their understanding (often recognised by parents early on)
excessive mood swings, often switching suddenly
comfortable (sometimes to an extreme extent) in role play and pretending
language delay, seemingly as a result of passivity, but often with a good degree of 'catch-up'
obsessive behaviour, often focused on people rather than things.

Here's a link to my first ever post: Today - A diagnosis of autism?


To contact me, please email stephstwogirls@gmail.com