Thursday 4 September 2014

School Reward Systems. Are you a fan?

So a question for all you school parents, but first an update on how the first two days of Back To School have gone here for those who were wondering....

Both Sasha and Tamsin bounded into school on Wednesday; 'nervous-cited' but happy to be going back. Sasha was happy to wear her shirt and tie, but switched back to the old favourite summer dress for Day 2. Which is probably a good thing, considering they had PE today and the tie making/button doing up isn't exactly a honed skill just yet.

After school I was told that Sasha had had a great day. She joined in with everything, and sat at the table with her classmates (not something which happened that often at Infants). She was shown the quiet(ish) area in class for her but she didn't feel the need to retreat all day, which is nothing short of a miracle!

She had school dinner with no upset at all, and got several 'pegs up' for good behaviour. As she heard mention of this though, she excitedly said she was nearly at a Golden Ticket... the bit about each day being a fresh start as far as the reward system goes obviously hadn't sunk in.

Sasha told me that her favourite part of the day had been playing outside, but then told me that at lunch play everyone had made her cry and she was very upset because they wouldn't play the game with her rules so she 'had to cancel it all and not play'. Her lack of understanding of give and take still needs some work.

Later on, at bedtime, Sasha asked me 'Mummy, is there a school where children can be a little bit cheeky and a bit silly?'

I'm working on finding it, Sasha.

Day 2 also seemed a relative success; happy to go in, happy as she came out. Sasha informed me it was a good day, apart from PE. PE itself was fun (being animals, apparently), but they played team games and the winning team were to get 'pegs up'. When it wasn't her team who won, she got very upset and cried.

Just hoping that the reward system is not going to be the straw that breaks the camel's back (wrong idiom perhaps?!). I have never been a lover of it if I'm honest. I wonder how many parents (especially SEN parents) feel the same? What are your thoughts?