Tuesday 17 April 2018

What is PDA? Does my child have Pathological Demand Avoidance?

'What is PDA, or Pathological Demand Avoidance?' and 'does my child have PDA?' are questions being asked by more and more people. Here is my attempt to throw some light on it all.

What is Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)?

First, let me try and explain in a nutshell what Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA for short) actually is.
The PDA Society describe Pathological Demand Avoidance as a 'profile of autism'. Autism is now (in 2018) the over-riding term most commonly used when talking about autism spectrum disorder (ASD). Disorder is not a great term for a difference in thinking, so some prefer to use the term autism spectrum condition (ASC) instead, but in general language both have been shortened to simply 'autism'.

People on the autism spectrum have difficulties in three main areas: social communication, social interaction and restrictive or repetitive patterns of behaviour. Those with the PDA profile are said to have one extra characteristic in particular which they all share - their avoidance of everyday demands made by other people, due to their high anxiety levels when they feel that they are not in control.

The characteristics of a person with Pathological Demand Avoidance are:

  • resisting and avoiding ordinary everyday demands
  • appearing sociable on the surface but lacking depth in their understanding (often recognised by parents early on)
  • uses social strategies to avoid demands - maybe distracting those giving the demands, or coming up with reasons (such as 'my legs don't work') why they can't do something
  • excessive mood swings, often switching suddenly
  • comfortable (sometimes to an extreme extent) in role play and pretending
  • obsessive behaviour, often focused on people rather than things

Language delay, seemingly as a result of passivity, but often with a good degree of 'catch-up' was thought to be a characteristic originally, and was definitely true of our girl. However the general feeling now is that not all of those who could be diagnosed with PDA would have had the language delay.

The history of PDA


Elizabeth Newson was an international expert in autism who first identified Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) back in the 1980s. Her first peer reviewed publication on PDA appeared in the British Medical Journals back in 2003, entitled 'Pathological demand avoidance syndrome: a necessary distinction within the pervasive developmental disorders'. In 2010, PDA research led by Francesca Happe began at Kings College in London and more research by other eminent practitioners was published between the years of 2013 to 2015.

If we think about how Asperger's Syndrome was first described in the 1940s, forty years previous to PDA being recognised in a group of children, but only really began to be talked about and discussed more in the 1980s, then we can see that understanding about Pathological Demand Avoidance is following a similar trajectory.

Does my child have Pathological Demand Avoidance?


This question often (but not always) comes from parents whose children are diagnosed with autism or who are suspected to be autistic, because some or all parts of the three main areas of difficulty have already been identified. So this could be problems with communicating, or struggles to relate to other children of their own age, or fascinations with certain unusual areas of interest, for example.

For these parents I'd suggest the Extreme Demand Avoidance Questionnaire (EDA-Q) as a starting point. This is a ticklist which could give an indication of whether someone might be considered to have PDA. It is not a diagnostic tool on its own but can be very helpful in highlighting where a child may experience differences from their peers. 'Modification of the Coventry Grid Interview (Flackhill et al, 2017) to include the Pathological Demand Avoidant profile' is also not a standalone tool but it might help to identify some children with a Pathological (or Extreme) Demand Avoidant profile. There's also another great article on the Help4Psychology website that looks into how PDA differs from attachment disorder or developmental trauma.

Can you have PDA and not be autistic?


This question about PDA is asked by some who don't believe their child is autistic. So far as research has shown up until this point, it is assumed that PDA is a condition which is part of the autism spectrum - that is to say, you cannot have PDA (or be a PDA-er, a term also used) and not be autistic.

However some PDAers may be so good at masking that their autistic characteristics are difficult to spot. Indeed, some of the PDA characteristics are so different to those of others on the spectrum - for example, appearing sociable and being comfortable with role play - that the real needs and the underlying anxiety might be masked.

The image below, created by the PDA Society, shows the autism spectrum conditions in the middle, in blue with overlapping circles. The conditions in green are what is known as co-morbid conditions. That means they can be present alongside autism spectrum conditions, but they can also be diagnosed alone.


Slide kindly shared with permission from the PDA Society.
Inner blue circle shows autism spectrum conditions; outer green circle shows many other conditions which are sometimes found alongside autism.

Demand Avoidance or Pathological Demand Avoidance?


The previous section leads on to the subject of demand avoidance as a whole, and how we determine who actually has PDA or where that 'line' can be drawn. Many children show signs of demand avoidance in its simplest form - that is to say, not doing something adults want the child to do which the child themselves doesn't want to do.

The difference for those with PDA is that it is an inbuilt need to avoid demands due to extreme high anxiety, rather than a wish to not comply or a desire to be awkward or oppositional (which could sometimes be done for attention). 'Can't help won't' is a phrase often associated with PDA.

There is a separate condition known as Oppositional Defiant Disorder which was first defined in 1980 - interestingly around the same time which Elizabeth Newson was doing her research. In my post 'The Difference Between PDA and ODD' I cover all of this in a lot more detail.

Just like other children, many autistic children can display demand avoidance at some level too. For example, those who experience difficulties with different sensory environments are likely to resist activities or daily life which affect them badly in a sensory way. When being taken out of their expected daily routine without the correct preparation, many autistic children may become distressed and try to avoid the new activity. Neither of these examples are the same as Pathological Demand Avoidance though.

Pathological has a few meanings if you look online; unable to control part of their behaviour, extreme in a way that is not normal, or relating to or caused by a disease are just a handful of those. Some actively dislike the term 'pathological' and wish it hadn't been chosen. They suggest that 'extreme' should have been used instead. Extreme is a good word in this instance; PDAers will sometimes go to extreme lengths to avoid everyday demands. They may be unable to agree to go and do their favourite activity even if they would actually really enjoy it, if a multitude of other demands have been placed on them that day and they no longer feel in control. Other suggested ways to rename PDA include a 'Persistent Drive for Autonomy' and Pervasive Demand Avoidance.

It is not a case of choosing not to do something, it is being physically unable to cope with the level of demands. Careful planning and strategies are needed to get around this, and there should always be an escape route, or Plan X, Y and Z if necessary. Sometimes parents become such experts at using the PDA strategies that their actions are barely noticeable.

Does PDA actually exist?


Lately there seem to be a couple of people popping up who are actively trying to disprove the idea that PDA exists. I'm not entirely sure why; whilst I agree that it is always good to carry on the discussion and research areas such as this further, I have no idea why anyone thinks that society would benefit from removing this category and assuming that all autistic children can be supported by using the same broad strategies.

Most of my blog is dedicated to trying to explain how Pathological Demand Avoidance presents in our girl and so of course I am not going to be agreeable to the idea of removing these words as a descriptor. There is a blogger called Riko (who happens to be autistic) who has written a great post in answer to the attempt to discredit PDA as an idea. I strongly suggest you read that rather than me attempt to explain the mistakes in any other way - her post is called 'Please stop hurting PDAers'.

Sharing information about ways to help PDAers is my main goal, in order to to help other families who may be struggling. I think some part of society has been fascinated with the idea of supernanny and that there is only one way to parent (control) children for too long. It's about time there was a shift in thinking.

Our experience


Our girl was diagnosed with autism at the age of 2 and a half. The autism diagnosis made sense to us in some ways, but it didn't seem to give a full explanation of all of her behaviours. It was a couple of years after diagnosis when I stumbled upon the PDA contact forum online (now known as the PDA Society) and we experienced our 'lightbulb moment' when reading all the characteristics which were said to fit this condition. It felt as if we were reading about our own daughter. Within another couple of years we had Pathological Demand Avoidance behaviours added as a secondary line on our diagnosis and thankfully this has been accepted by everyone involved in supporting our girl so far.

I am one of only a handful of people blogging about PDA at the moment, but I appreciate that doesn't make me an expert. I can say that I'm an expert in my own child, as I know and understand her better than anyone else does due to the amount of time I have spent with her. As she matures, she will hopefully understand herself better too and be able to communicate more easily to help us understand even more.

In the years since our girl was diagnosed, I have spoken online with many other parents of PDA children and adults diagnosed with PDA. Many of them have shared their experiences in my blog series called 'Our PDA Story'.

I suspect there are more children who would be diagnosed with PDA given the right assessments, and if parents were listened to more closely, but I don't subscribe to the suggestion that many parents are 'jumping on the bandwagon'. PDA is a set of characteristics which need support in a very specific way; it is certainly not easy to constantly and consistently uphold PDA strategies.

I think it is important to address the thorny issue around the word 'naughty'. Jane Sherwin wrote a brilliant book titled 'My daughter is not naughty' which sums up their family's experiences. It is occasionally suggested that some parents appear not to be able to manage their child's behaviour because they don't impose the right boundaries. As with the well-documented Disney ride pass systems, there may indeed be some who try to cheat the system; a small number of parents might not want to put stricter boundaries on their children and subsequently see behaviour getting out of control, then think that jumping to the PDA conclusion is an easy option. However, I believe that if such parents exist, they are in a minority. Practitioners should be trained to listen carefully to the full story from parents who appear to be struggling, in order to determine what the child's behaviour is trying to communicate.

Some parents experience violent and challenging behaviour from their autistic children with (and without) PDA; for those parents I recommend a website set up by Yvonne Newbold which offers much support.

As always, the first place I suggest anyone turns to when looking for information about Pathological Demand Avoidance is the PDA Society website. There is so much information on there, including a great post about the diagnostic pathway for PDA.

For further reading in book form, I've listed the books on PDA which I found most helpful when we started looking for more answers. If you have any further questions, please feel free to ask in the comments or via one of my other social media contacts.

If you've found this post helpful it would help so many more families if you choose to share it in some way. Likewise, my post on Strategies for PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) could help others, and the section titled PDA Info (under Autism and PDA at the top of my main page) has more posts with information about PDA.

pinnable image does my child have PDA and venn diagram showing many conditions




For more information about PDA, please read the book shown below: 
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Book cover for Understanding pathological demand avoidance syndrome in children, by Phil christie, margaret duncan, zara healy and ruth fidler
(Other PDA books can be found in my 

To find out more about our experiences, please check out our 'About Us' page or the summary of our experience in Our PDA Story Week 35. If you are looking for more online reading about Pathological Demand Avoidance, the posts below may help.


What is PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance)?


Ten things you need to know about Pathological Demand Avoidance


Does my child have Pathological Demand Avoidance?


The difference between PDA and ODD


Strategies for PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance)


Pathological Demand Avoidance: Strategies for Schools


Challenging Behaviour and PDA


Is Pathological Demand Avoidance real?


Autism with demand avoidance or Pathological Demand Avoidance?




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22 comments:

  1. Thanks for all the info. I had never heard of pda despite attending a certifcate course in asd studies last year and having children with asd/aspergers. Very interesting reading and thanks publishing this info.

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    1. Still so many people who haven't heard of PDA and yet just understanding it could help many :(

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  2. Thank you for this! So much makes sense for me at this very moment. Its like I knew she was on the spectrum but since her symptoms were NOTHING like everyone associates with ASD I felt like I was making assumptions out of thin air. I'm hoping to start on a new path with this.

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    1. Glad to hear you've had that lightbulb moment - hope life calms down a little for you now x

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  3. I've been searching for something that explains my sons behaviour as I refuse to believe he's just "naughty" or likes to annoy/upset people by refusing to carry out simple every day tasks. This is the closest I have read that reflects my own son's behaviour and I feel hope. My marriage is strained because we deal with his reactions differently, and that just makes it worse. Thank you so much for this page, I'm definitely going to look I to this further.

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    1. Hope it helps - it is difficult and we have had to re-evaluate what we thought 'good' parenting was about. I definitely subscribe to the Ross Greene idea that 'kids do well if they can' - for those who don't want to believe in PDA, I'd recommend his website which is not about PDA at all.

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  4. This is my grandson and at the moment my daughter and I are in a battle with his school. He is a school refuser on a part time basis. He is so anxious about school or even a simple trip to the shops its heart breaking. The school is now pushing for full time my daughter has been accused of neglect, letting him down and the head teacher has even told her she is actually no good for her own little boy. He is 7 was diagnosed on the severe end of the ASD aged 4. We live in the Doncaster and we are trying to find where close to us will complete an assessment for PDA. Any information would be greatly appreciated thank you.

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    1. Hi, I definitely recommend checking out all the information on the PDA Society website and maybe contacting their enquiry line? They do have a specific page for diagnosis information here: https://www.pdasociety.org.uk/life-with-pda-menu/family-life-intro/diagnosing-pda-children/

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  5. Does anyone have any experience co parenting with a child with supposedly pda. Our child has been told she possibly has it and I have not seen any information or people that are separated ways of dealing with it.

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    1. Hi, I'd maybe suggest asking this in one of the PDA Facebook groups as there will definitely be others having this experience too - my group is https://www.facebook.com/groups/1117007355140073

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  6. Hi my daughter is 12, has diagnosis of asd, adhd, dyslexia, dyscalculia and much more. She too has all the characteristics of PDA. Her mood changes suddenly we describe it as a light switch being flicked on and off to the point we have sen vcb. We are under camsh, Edwin Lobo, psychologist but when I raise pda it is ignored I did the EDA-q and she scored 48 I am unsure what to do as she is able to mask it all day then we get it at home.

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    1. Sorry I've just realised my reply to you didn't post for whatever reason. I hope you've managed to find more support since writing this? x

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  7. Thank you so much for this website and documenting PDA for us all! My daughter has PDA and it is great to connect with others who are seeing the same behaviour and who can share their experience- makes me feel less alone x

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    1. Thank you for reading and commenting! It's always good to hear it has helped x

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  8. I stumbled upon the term PDA for the first time a couple of days ago (while watching rockstar interviews on youtube of all places), googled it to figure out what it is, came across your blog ... and now I'm sitting here in tears. What you describe sounds totally like my life for the last 19 years, down to how I instincitvely deal with my daughter despite everybody always telling me I'm "doing it all wrong". I didn't realize how much stress and desparation I had locked off deep inside me until your texts made me realise that it's not just us being "weird", but other people experiencing the same thing, and there's even a label for it. Thank you!

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    1. Ah I'm so pleased to have helped in some small way, and glad to hear you've had your 'lightbulb moment' - hopefully this will help you to stay strong in the future x

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  9. I have been having a lot of issues with my almost 16 year old daughter. I was thinking she had some sort of autism, but now that I found your site I’m almost positive she has PDA. She was recently diagnosed with SPD (last summer).
    She is supposed to go to Europe with school in a couple weeks and I’m terrified she won’t be able to get ready on time everyday. From your experience do you think a teen with PDA can do this? She doesn’t mask, at least at home.

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    1. Hi, this might depend on how much she wants to go (although that's never a guarantee it will work, but sometimes makes things easier), and how well prepared she has been about what is happening on the trip (is there a schedule, is there much free unstructured time, is she happy with both or better with one of these?). Have you been able to talk with school about what she finds difficult or what your concerns are? I think all teens are different of course, but I'm sure there will be teens who have coped OK on school trips. I hope it goes well for you and her.

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  10. Thanks for all this info. Can a 4 year old be diagnosed with PDA?

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    1. Our daughter was diagnosed with autism at the age of 2, and she was around 4 when we heard about PDA. I think the answer is that it might depend on the child or the clinician assessing them. But it's certainly never too young to start using the helpful approaches x

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  11. I highly suspect my 12 year old has PDA as he has so many of the traits. Can I ask, have you ever heard of children avoiding their need to go to the toilet? Since my son was young he has always had toileting issues, with regular soiling and wetting of his underwear. This is still a big issue for him and causes such a lot of distress. It will happen on almost a daily basis - not at school now, but always at home.

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    1. Hi, yes this has been discussed in PDA forums before. It could be linked to a sensory need known as interoception, and our children's lack of understanding of that. You are not alone, many other families going through this x

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